How to support a family as they welcome a new placement

​New parents typically spend roughly 9 months preparing for the arrival of their baby. American culture has developed many different ways to celebrate the upcoming birth of a child, including: pregnancy announcements, gender reveal parties, maternity photo-shoots, and fun apps that illustrate a baby's current size and stage of development. Many first-time parents are thrown a baby shower to honor this new chapter, offer love and advice for the parents-to-be, and offset the heavy costs of all the items needed to care for the baby. Additionally, most working parents are able to alert their workplace of their needs ahead of time, and plan for their upcoming maternity or paternity leave.

Welcoming a new foster placement is not as predictable an experience.

A nine-month preparation period is reduced to as little as hours of warning before the child(ren)'s arrival. Foster parents may not even know important details like gender, age, how many children need placing, how many belongings the child is coming with (which, in some cases, is none) and what the child's health and medical needs are. This time can be especially difficult for those fostering their first infant or toddler, who need the same variety of items that are typically provided through a baby shower registry - car seats, strollers, diapers, bottles, formula and high chair are large expenses that a foster parent needs to suddenly pay for. Working parents may have to adjust their work schedules with little to no notice, and quickly plan for childcare assistance. 

​So how can you support a foster parent who has just welcomed a child (of any age) into their home?

• Offer to cover practical items such as paper towels, toilet paper, tissues, paper plates and cleaning supplies. This saves the parents time and money spent on errands.
• If the child is an infant or a toddler - offer to purchase general baby items such as diapers, wipes, outfits and pajamas, and bath needs. Make sure to ask if the parents need a specific size or have a brand preference.
• Purchase gift cards to Amazon or Walmart, so they can expect fast, convenient delivery right to their door.
• Help with meals - most new parents (foster AND bio) would gladly welcome assistance in planning & preparing their next meals. Offer to cook and serve them a hot meal, bring over a few prepared frozen meals, or set up a round of online grocery deliveries.

Not everyone is called to foster or adopt, but everyone can do something to support those who do. Visit www.houstonangels.org to learn more about how you can start supporting a local foster family!